Online dating!
(Thought I would cross over into April's area a little...) Not sure how many of you may have tried this method of finding someone...but I just wanted to ask some questions. Why do women put photos on there that are of Mountain ranges, flowers, back yards(all with no people in them) , animals (I assume their pets), a group photo with many other girlfriends all looking the same (how can we tell which one is you?) A profile that's 1000 words +.....
It would seem to me these would be appropriate if you were a "female" seeking "FEMALE"! We're guys, as much as we like to get in touch with our "female" side, we're STILL guys!!!!!!
I would suggest to them that most "guys" will pass on these profiles. I guess the good side is that you can see what you're in for....without a lot of the games...
AM I off base here...What do we think people? Keep it clean ....! Thanks
Comments
Well, I'll just have to say, they're not MY clients!
Sweet. Clueless. Clearly in need of coaching.
I don't know if you can see my profile by this, but @ Y! I am
Profile ID: personals-1136771716-583599
Well, I don't do that. I suppose THAT is why I get asked out so often. Well, that and I'm gorgeous and vivacious and express that in my profile.
Time and again I hear from men, "You were beautiful and interesting in your profile." or words to that effect.
I have to say I know men who write terribly LONG profiles too.
Leave a little mystery.
A little something for when you MEET!
So, before M expires, email me your profile so I can see what YOU look like online!
Mazel tov!
April BraswellRomance Coach, Online Dating Coach
April has a job, because people can't get on the same wave length.
Always remember men are dogs without fur coats. The fairer are cats without fur coats. We get along as well.
Takes awhile to wear the edges down. Then we negotiate for what we want.
Glad I got married before the Post a Date world came about.
Tim
Scott A Bell
The Road Warrior
Aprils point of leaving out some of the details to create mystery is something very powerful. think of victoria secret and playboy which have better looking women?
Tough choice I know... Mine would be victoria's there's still a bit of mystery there Contractor Marketing
Matthew Shields
I believe that women put up those photos for two reasons.
1) They are afraid of online predators.
2) They have something to hide, and figure that great scenery or a cute cat has a better chance of attracting a date than they themselves do.
Just my 2 cents!
Jennifer Skinner - Wardrobe Planning Expert
People need to be coached for this. That is why April, Dating Maven and Relationship Coach has picked the right field. She is a natural. Personally I prefer the face-to-face pick up and meeting. You get to see what you are getting.
Steve
Aaron
I HAD to say it. You would have been disappointed in me otherwise..... ;) Far be it for me to disappoint.
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Tim
I actually asked that question to an attractive woman and the response was that they did not wish to attract a person based soley on something so superficial as a photo, they were looking for a more substantial relationship.
peter
Yes, I think it's better to leave the big question mark - see my profile photo!
Joking aside, I agree with Aaron on this. I suspect many put up what *they* like, or think is cute, without really thinking of what those they hope to attract like. Just my 2 cents.
Yann Vernier - Personal Coach
sigh.
that's called JUDGING MEN for indeed being.. MEN. God forbid.
personally, I think, THANK GOD men find me so attractive. THANK GOD they are visually stimulated. Hello, now I KNOW what to do and WHERE to focus my efforts...
Yes, the ones who do that 1. Have no clue. and 2. Usually are wounded in some way that way. By which I also mean, we ALL have some wounds. Not to say they are anymore wounded than the rest of us.
Posting a group pix as a secondary or tertiary pix is fine. But I'm hoping he'll find ME attractive and not my rose bushes.
All the best,
April BraswellRomance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Back in the day (three or four years ago) when I was online dating I only posted pics of me alone but I noticed that other women would do what you have noticed....the mountains, the pets, the gaggle of girlfriends.
I think women don't post pics because they lack confidence. Which has never been a problem I've had. I understand not wanting a man to only want you for your looks...cuz if that's the case maybe those girls don't have much else to offer? I know that sounds harsh but that's my opinion.
But the opposite of that is when women post the "glamour shot" photo where they obviously went down to the mall and got the full work up at Glamour Shots. Is that place even still around??
Sabrina